Gameboy's Journal

[average_daygamer]

Ah, Gameboy, you've finally had that one weird situation where you start to think "is cold approach the right path". Well let me make it easy for you: it is the only path. Once you get past 30, apps are out due to the age (discrimination) filter if you want to get younger girls. Social circle is likely to be your own age anyway. If you are a single guy, without a family, you are out there for yourself, no one else. If your goal is to get laid with 18 year old girls then that is great!

But you have to access them and the only way to do that is by approaching them.

I had a situation where I got into a confrontation with this huge chavy 16 year old when I approached his girlfriend who was walking behind him (whom I thought was 18). That was a couple years into my cold approach journey. Since then I have had a few more confrontations, notably where I had to put a lad on the floor outside a pub.

What these situations teach you is, whether you are in it for real or not. Because ask yourself brother, if not cold approach then what?

Are you just gonna online "date" with women within a few years range of yourself rather than girls who really get your pulse racing and juices flowing?

 

[gameboy]

Lol, overweight 50 year olds from the apps? No thanks!

If I wanted to bang girls my age it would be easy as fuck. (nice pun) But unfortunately I'm just not attracted to them.

I'm not necessarily looking for 18-year-olds either. I mean if I could get one in bed it would probably be lots of fun, and I definitely am not ruling it out. But I don't see myself dealing with immature personalities in the long term

My sweet spot would probably be somewhere between 25-35. But if she's hot and has a good personality, I wouldn't mind a girl in her 40s either. My last gf was 8 years younger than me, so would be 43 by now. I haven't seen her in a couple of years but when we broke up, she was still very doable. Slim, fit body, attractive face, nice long curly hair.

Unfortunately hot single sane 40 year olds aren't super common around here. And since I'm cold approaching anyway, I'm not limiting myself to a specific age range necessarily (though I try to avoid approaching girls that look like teens).

Nah, cold approach is too much fun to give up. I was rattled by that experience for a bit, since the reaction was so extreme. (Not sure how you deal with that shit on a daily basis @average_daygamer. Hope you find a way to make your approaches smoother soon.)

In this case, after reflecting on the incident, I'm pretty sure it was just an extreme case of virtue signaling to the boyfriend. And then of course the guy had to step up and show his girlfriend in turn that he was man enough to confront me. I mean I've been in the same situation 1000s of times, when you have a hot GF it happens all the time that other guys will come up to her and talk to her when you're in the bathroom. (which is what I think happened, because I approached that chick just outside a public restroom. I think he was probably even in earshot. Which is probably why she shouted "what's your problem" so loud.)

Anyway, don't worry guys I'm gonna keep going. Planning to target my approaches a bit better though, and make them smoother.

You should try talk to dudes as well.

Yeah I do that too, but I don't usually cold approach them. There's a few guys I see on the beach frequently, and we chat when our paths cross.

Once I actually cold approach a dude who was wearing a t-shirt of a band I like, but it was kind of awkward. He had this whole "I wonder if he's gay" vibe about him. Not planning to do that too often lol. I don't like being approached by dudes either, especially if their intentions aren't clear immediately.

Some come up and ask me for cigarettes, or weed or whatever. Then I can tell them yes or no or whatever. But I've also had some really weird dudes approach me. Anyone remember the "holobo from" guy? "is good"? Man... I mean if you're gay you can probably get away with saying "asoifhasofiasdfdfsdfsfhsoifhiosd" and still get laid. For us heteros it's a little bit more complicated haha.

It was an intense experience for sure, so that's normal.

Thanks for your support buddy. Much appreciated, it helped a lot

"Excuse me, I was just walking past here, and I noticed you as you seemed to be checking out how you look on your phone and I wanted to say.... You look very pretty! "

Yeah I have used that opener as well. Usually I shorten it a bit though, since I never know which language the girl understands so I mainly just do one sentence for the opener, than wait for her reply to see whether she understands me or whether it's necessary to switch languages. Then once we've established which language we're speaking, if the vibe is good I usually tell them I saw you from over there and wanted to talk to you or something like that.

Regarding intentions, with a bit of distance I don't think the girl that reacted so extremely misunderstood my intentions at all. Girls aren't dumb, they know what's up when a guy approaches them. Though they like to play dumb and will still make you do all the work of seducing them, lol.

Like I wrote above, by now I believe her reaction was an immature, low-EQ version of saying "I have a bf so don't hit on me" (since he was probably right there, within earshot).

 

[gameboy]

Just a quick update since it's been over a month already.

I really want to step up my game again. I had some downtime. It took me about a week to get over the incident with the angry girl and her boyfriend. When I was ready to approach again, I think I did a few approaches but then I got sick for another week. Then I went on a hoilday trip with family, which was awesome, but there wasn't much opportunity to talk to girls either.

I've been doing the odd aproach here and there, but I don't think any really hooked. The other day I had a situation where I was lying next to a girl on the beach, she was hot and was actually giving me very overt AIs. And I couldn't talk to her!! There was a group of teenagers (3M1F) standing right behind her and goofing around, about a meter or two away. That gave me tons of AA, since they'd have seen and overheard everything. I gotta say I found it much easier to approach on the beach in the winter, when it was less packed than now.

Of course I went home kicking myself after I let this one slide. She was a real cutie, slim, petite, some patchwork tats but not too much. And she kept looking over at me. I do get girls signaling from time to time, but it's not like it happens every day. And for some absurd reason it feels even harder to approach them than approaching a girl who seems oblivious of my presence. This makes no rational sense at all.

Maybe I should just aim to get drunk by noon, and then pick up drunk in the evenings? Just kidding. I want to be able to do this without alcohol or drugs, and anyway my tolerance for drinking is at an all time low.

So my plan for the rest of this month is to do at least 1-3 approaches per day just to be warmed up and get some momentum going. In August, it's very hot and humid where I live. When I go out around noon planning to approach, I just want to sit down and rest right away. Most girls walking around don't look like they're enjoying the heat either, so at least it's not like it's just me.

Another thing I noticed when I went out earlier today is that most girls will avoid eye contact like the plague. I think it's because of all the bums running around in the city center who will pester everyone they meet for some money. It's awesome to live in the center of a very beautiful city, but it also comes with its downside.

I know there've been periods in the past where I approached 2-5 girls per day regularly, so it's not like it's impossible. Just need to get over the initial AA again. Impressive how it keeps coming back each time you take break.

 

[average_daygamer]

Two things

1. It's harder to approach a girl giving you AI's because you don't want to mess it up by coming across as a needy weirdo and shatter her image she had of you.

2. I also really struggle in the humidity. After a shift at work, then the gym, all I want to do is sit on a bench and people watch.

I find I need a huge amount of mental energy to cold approach, to overcome the resistance.

Normally my best approaches happend when I hit the high street to just go and approach. It's why I find approaching as part of my day so tiring, as I am normally tired from getting up early and working.

 

[ChrisXKiss]

Nice to hear you are doing well!

The other day I had a situation where I was lying next to a girl on the beach, she was hot and was actually giving me very overt AIs. And I couldn't talk to her!! There was a group of teenagers (3M1F) standing right behind her and goofing around, about a meter or two away. That gave me tons of AA, since they'd have seen and overheard everything. I gotta say I found it much easier to approach on the beach in the winter, when it was less packed than now.

I’d say that them hearing you comes with the approach, I understand the feeling though.

Sometimes even if you are totally ok approaching like that, the girl may feel a bit of pressure when she is obviously approached in front of other people taking note of it.

But since she was giving IOIs it should have been fine, probably even better if it was more low key and not a fully obvious direct approach with you standing above her for long.

And yeah there are some situations that you may not feel like approaching much due to a variety of reasons. I believe it is useful to still do few approaches anyway just to keep the habit through that and sooner or later you get more motivated.

Every time I come back to approaching after a while I feel it gets a bit easier than before, that said at this point I prefer regularly doing just one or two approaches, even when I am not much in the mood.

This is to help my brain feel that it is something I am still comfortable doing, and I am simply not particularly motivated right now, instead of having it think that approaching is something I don’t do anymore and a big thing I should be anxious about.

 

[gameboy]

Ran into HBBlueEyes again yesterday evening again, just as I was arriving on the beach. She was on the point of leaving as I arrived, waiting for someone at a public shower. I waited a minute to see who it was, turns out she was with her mom who was visiting from another country.

I said hi, she immediately got up from the bench they both were sitting on, and gave me a very warm hug. Introduced me to her mom, I said hi, then turned back to HBBE and looked her in the eye. Damn she has beautiful eyes. I'm not even into blue eyes usually. But combined with her waist long black hair and deeply tanned skin, they have a striking effect. Maybe it's becuase I know her already, and we have some history of flirting off and on even though nothing "substantial" has ever happend.

She asked me how I'm doing. I told her I'm great. Looked her in the eye again, smiling. It feels like there's a spark. However I don't want to chase her because I tried that twice already. There's really no way to escalate, since we already have each others' numbers. Last time we texted (several months ago), she left me on read for a week or two then replied something like "Awww sorry, I thought I already replied to you! I'm great exams are good (yadda yadda) hope you're having a good week"

I replied sth like, haha no way, glad your exams went well, then told her to come out to the beach one evening to hang out and chill. No reply. I'm 99% sure this girl is taken, because the chemistry is definitely there. And I'm sure she is feeling it too.

So, there was not really much to do for me here. i kept it short and just asked her if the water is clean today, she said it's a bit dirty so I said cool then I'll go to a different part of the beach where it's cleaner. That was about it.

Guess I could have done a little bit more small talk. No point escalating physically though, with the mother there watching. Plus we already have each other's numbers, so no point going for that either. I still enjoyed meeting her, even though it was brief. I've known this girl for years now. When I first met her I was still with the ex, then when I was available it seems like she wasn't. So nothing ever happened.

I want to have this kind of feelings with someone who I'm actually spending time with, and who's available. Life is too short to be wasting it on fanstasies. Gotta go approach more!

 

[gameboy]

Nice hook today in a cafeteria, with 3 girls at a table nearby. 2 of them were good looking, the other one a little chubby but not ugly either. When one of the good looking ones went to the bathroom, I seized the chance and cold read the remaing 2 girls which city they were from. I got it completely wrong, but they were quite open nonetheless and asked me questions back where I was from etc, whether I lived nearby, and such. Chubby girl was leading the conversation, but her friend was smiling at me quite a bit.

I ended the conversation too early. When the more attractive one got up, I assumed the 3 of them were leaving. So I said "All right, nice to meet you!", and as a result, they turned away from me. Turns out that girl was just going to the bathroom, while the other one came back (which was also attractive). So I could have kept chatting.

I often get better reactions than I expect. I guess it's a matter of practice, and lowering my overall anxiousness. Not that I was particularly anxious in this conversation. But at one point for example I realized I was leaning forward all the time since their table was in front of mine. So I leaned back to not look so eager. Which then felt like I was checking out of the conversation. I didn't want to give that impression either, so after a few seconds I leaned forward again. Not sure if they even noticed, but since I'm reading this site I'm paying attention to these little details.

I wasn't really planning to pull any of the girls since it was a 3 set, but they seemed quite open. The more attractive one actually had given me a look when I arrived and sat down at my table. I couldn't quite place that look at first, but turns out she probably found me attractive because she was smiling quite a bit while we talked. She told me at one point she had been to my country, so I could have connected better over that. Asked her what brought her there, what she thought about it, etc.

Always assume attraction! Especially from the hot ones.