About the mentions: I'm confused on my own energy/state of this approach and would like your guys' opinions on it please
I've been bitten by the success bug and had to try and keep it rolling. Decided to do more approaches today, no hooks but that'll happen while out playing PokemonGo this morning
Went back later and one of two did hook, although I don't feel like it was the best approach for a few reasons (but I am trying something new so it's to be expected and even with that she seems interested)
1) fundamentals --> 6-7/10 (relaxing my stomach while standing is difficult since I've got well over a decade long habit to break). Also felt like my walk was a bit lacking. Posture was great though
2) opener --> 8/10
3) Conversation was normal stuff, topics overall I felt like were: 8-9/10 (delivery of said topics however, 5-6/10)
4) my energy --> ??/10 (more down below)
5) close --> 5/10 but possibly better
6) my goals with what to work on 8/10 (they need work but I count this as a 8 because I'm actively working on new things, didn't see an appropriate opportunity for a cold read though)
Delivery of said goals to work on needs work though lol
Approach
It was a repeat opener. She was skating and something in me thought this was a good idea: off-hand comment about her skating since she was cleeeaaarrly new at it
Good job!
Let it go until we 'coincidentally' cross paths again while I'm on my phone. I don't remember what I said at first (probably how's your day or something) but then as she started rolling away I told her to slow down for just a second
She did, slowly walked back up to her and delivered the opener. Introduced ourselves and then kinda went into the convo. She's very happy at this point. Said something like
"Since I don't know much about you other than you're cute tell me about yourself. Are you as good a person on the inside as you are the outside?"
--> I need to find a better way to deliver this but it's still new so I'm not gonna be too harsh on myself
Challenged her a bit more and also related to her wanting to help people is close to my wanting to help people (different paths but same reason). Also talked about the person we helps reaction because I felt like she could relate
My energy was lower today for some reason. It wasn't bad nor negative. It was positive but it was definitely lower than normal. Not sure if this is a good thing or not
Her energy matched mine so I didn't think it was going well
Ended up also qualifying her on trying new things. It's scary to try new things but I think it's cool that you are and it's going well
I honestly didn't think the approach was going well so I even told her at the end
"Before I start walking back that way is there anything else you'd like to know about me?"
"Your phone number?"
Put first and last name in my phone so I guess I did a better job than I thought I did? Not sure, time will tell
She mentioned her schedule being pretty open so that's also a good sign. Though I took that initiative to go for later tonight but she said she was getting dinner with her roommate. Decided to not push the issue and will instead reopen the possibility within the icebreaker
She seemed genuine in wanting to get a coffee with me. So I think I'm almost there...
Total approach in my mind: 6/10
How happy I am with the approach: 8/10
Things I'm actively working on:
1) Cold reads
2) Challenging her/adding pressure to then qualify
3) Finding ways to show how I stand out compared to other people without bragging (chase's showing scarcity section in the challenging article is currently my go-to)
4) relaxing my stomach
Things I lacked a bit:
1) walk, c'mon bro this should be a 10
2) voice --> it's the habit that I'm trying to break. Takes time
3) obviously stuff I am working on
4) compliance --> because she was skating didn't see an opportunity except on the open
Things did well:
1) I truly believe that the double approach/off-hand comment worked well
2) I commanded her to slow down and she did on the approach
Question Marks:
I'm not sure if my energy being lower is a good thing or not. On one hand it lends itself to some more sexuality but it could come off as boring. So I honestly have no idea if this is good or bad
Again, my energy was positive. It was just low overall.
@ulrich and
@Will_V thoughts please on the energy/state/vibe I'm talking about?