Another day, another number?
I did only 1 approach today ... and it was an insta-date
It's been years since I had an insta-date so I'm really proud of myself.
Saw a thin girl with brown hair sitting on a stone bench and I was thinking to myself "Omg this is gonna be so awkward if I am going to be locked in sitting beside the girl and she ignores me". Went in with indirect direct.
Description: Her face was slightly oval, with abit of pimples on the top of the face, wearing white glasses with rectangular frames. Her hair was dyed brown with slight new hair being black slowly grown out. She was wearing a brown top unbuttoned overshirt, white undershirt and white short.
Me: Actually you looked really cute and I want to come and say hi!
Her: Thank you (typical calm reaction)
Me: So what brought you here today?
Her: Just taking a walk
Me: Oooh why here though, why not like at orchard or gardens by the bay?
Her: I just came to Singapore on 3rd august
Me: Wow, so you are really new here
Her: Yeah. How about you?
Me: I live here all my life for about 20 over years.
Her: Ah you must know this place well then.
Me: Yeah, I could show u around when I am free.
Her: Haha, I am free on weekends
Me: Btw, my name's xxx
Her: I'm xxx
Me: So why did u come here and not like Australia
I gave her my skeptical eye look because I wanted to learn more about her.
Her: I came here to work as a nurse, I mean nursing assistant. Back in Philippine I am a registered nurse, but they don't recognise it over here. So I work as a nursing assistant.
Me: Thats really cool, I like people who take care of others. They give themselves to help others live better.
Her: Yeah. What do you work as?
Me: I'm in healthcare too.
I wanted to find out her logistics, as I was hungry and ready for food. I hope she was on the same page but she wasn't.
Me: Oh yeah, are u hungry?
Her: I will be eating at home.
Me: Where do you live?
Her: (She lives around here)
Me: Alright, I wanted to eat, but since you aren't hungry lets go for a walk then.
I half expected her to say no. Silly me. I stood up and she followed me
We started walking towards a shopping mall. I was just talking fluff, finding out about her hobbies (tiktok dancing), what she does beside work (she just arrived), where she stays (apparently she has a roommate and they live together). I liked how she deliberately walk really close to me, a lot of incidental arm to arm contact. As we entered the shopping mall, we went into one of the shops and I teased her.
Me: Hey, you should wear this is looks good haha (I held a denim jacket pulled straight out of the store rack).
Her: Yeah looks good
Me: Come over here you so far (she was standing about 1 metre away)
Her: I can see from here
I compared the shirt briefly before putting it back
Me: Okay now u select something for me
Her: But there is only girl's clothes here
Me: I still look good in womens clothing
We continued walking to the back of the mall and to the 2nd floor. I continued the fluff talk and directed her around (Lets go here. Go there. Follow me) to a food court at level 2. It was half full of people.
Dinner for 1!
Me: Hey, lets go for food. Oh wait you are eating at home. Watch me eat then.
She sat at a table while I ordered my food. She started taking out and using her mobile phone. I came back with my food. I noticed her mobile phone was cracked.
Me: Oh my, that one is cracked bad.
Her: Yeah (She showed me as I motioned it over)
Me: Reminds me of my old phone. Had spider cracks all over and small glass pieces coming out every now and then. It was bad.
Her: Oh no
Me: You should repair yours like as soon as possible.
Her: It's ok
I started eating while she used her phone.
Me: Oh yeah u do tiktok?
Me: Show me your tiktok
She showed me her account, her roommate's photo. Apparently her roommate is attached. Then a couple of videos on her tiktok dances, including one where she was trying to be sexy. She was self consciously embarrassed haha. (Oh man I missed an easy chase frame here. Could've said Hey you trying to turn me on?) I asked for her number.
Me: You dance really well for someone who has never had dance lessons. A bit stiff here and there, but overall great.
Her: Thank you haha
I made a mistake by going back to talk about her phone and how she needs to repair it. I cared about it too much. Then I asked her whether she plays games on her phones
Her: Yeah I play mobile legends. How about you?
Me: I used to play dota, then I played League of Legends
Her: Oh league of legends.
Me: Yeah, who are you playing mobile legends with?
Her: My friend.
Me: Oh you have a clan?
Eventually I finished my dinner. It was a mix of her checking her phone and talking to me. Looking back I felt that I should've asked her to put her phone away, but at the same time I felt like I wasn't paying her full attention too.
I finished eating and we walked again. This time I directed her towards a phone repair shop. She instinctively avoided the shop as I wanted to talk to the shop staff.
Me: No I don't want them to repair your phone. I just want to ask how much it would be to replace the cracked screen
Her: No (she turned away)
Me: It's ok, maybe u get new phone
Her: Yeah better.
We continued walking a short while and she told me she wanted to go back.
Me: Oh I thought ur roommate is working?
Her: She ended work already. We going for food. (This was the 2nd time. She said it once while towards the end of my meal)
Me: Later we go back ok, lets go there.
I directed her towards a chocolate shop after asking her what her favorite shop is. She likes kit kat.
Me: Hey look at that, kit kat over there.
Her: Oh yeah
Me: Even the other side.
I ended up buying chocolates that I liked instead and gave her 1 to take away.
Walking again to the other mall
We walked towards the other mall. More fluff talk as usual, until I decided to switch it up and ask her out again
Me: Lets hang out again, maybe at Jewel Changi or Gardens by the bay
Her: Sure, you know my free days Sat and Sun
Me: Oh crap I have work for the next 2 weeks on weekends.
Me: Lets keep in touch then.
Her: Yeah when you are free.
Continued fluff talk to exit point.
Waved her goodbye. (I don't normally force hugs/kiss goodbyes. If I wanted to hug/kiss, I would do them in the middle of the date)
Moving girls is fun -> Do it more often
?Pay for girls if they seem poor/stingy