Queuing for the restaurant
1) I think we look good together, wait are you wearing those [clothes/accessory] ok then we can't be together anymore. Then again u seem really fit and toned. I think I can make an exception for you.
2) Talking about beaches
M: I love the beaches in Phuket, they take me back to a simpler time. They create a really relaxed environment. It's the best feeling being there with someone close and just enjoying the moment spent with each other, hearing the waves seeing the water.
H: Yeah I really like the beaches too, the other time I went ...
M: We can both go to the beaches together. Imagine us just lying down on a beach bench looking at the sky and drinking tea
H: Yeah we can even go swimming
M: Salty haha. I don't want to swim. Go without me.
1) Show me your dance video. Watch her dance video and say. Cool dance moves. We just met today and you are already showing off your body to me.
M: Tell me about your favorite food.
H: I like Japanese food and sushi
M: Wow, tell me what sushi do u know?
H: Sashimi, tuna, swordfish
M: Oooh trying to show off your food knowledge to me. My favorite is sashimi
1) Do you travel?
2) Have you ever played an instrument?
H: Yeah I like travelling
M: That's really cool, I like people who travel because they are adventurous, and willing to try new things. It's like being a kid again, curious and exploring new things.
H: Yeah I have ever played a clarinet
M: Oh wow, that's so unexpected. I love hearing and playing music. Whenever I play my ukulele I feel like time flies and I just enjoy myself endlessly
1) Show me ur necklace/hand
2) Turn around, let me see your dress from behind
3) Sit closer, let me see what ur typing
Dinner -> Shop -> Drinks/Ice cream -> Her home
Additional stops if needed: Park
Opened her in the mall where I was queuing in the restaurant where we decide to eat. She walked past me and didn't recognize me. Then I turned around and saw her staring at me. Today I was focused on being more stoned-face and showing less interest to prevent myself from being seen as too eager and interested.
Me: Hey are you xxx?
Her: Yeah, are you xxx?
Me: Yeah, I thought u had yellow hair, should've been super obvious
Her: Yellow hair? Blonde u mean, yeah I used to have that.
Me: Brown hair looks good too, where did u dye it?
Her: In some hair salon.
Me: How are you?
Her: I'm good, how are you?
Me: I'm good too. I saw your airplane photo and you seem to really like travelling
Her: Yeah I travel to a lot of places
Me: Which places are you going next?
Her: Melbourne to Sydney
Me: Sounds fun (Missed opportunity here to qualify her on her travelling)
Her: Do you travel yourself?
Me: Yeah I have been to Thailand
Her: Other places?
Me: And Malaysia
Her: Only these 2?
Me: Yeah, I don't travel often.
Her: Nowadays I also never, it's been 3 years
Me: The pandemic is stopping us
Seated inside restaurant (Facing each other)
Then we talk about food and then took a seat inside the restaurant. I moved my water away from my desk so that I can focus on her instead of the water. I asked her to move closer as the restaurant was noisy and she complied, moving her chair a little closer to me.
We didn't have the best conversation, it kept stopping, as we took some time to eat in between.
Me: What do you do in your travels?
Her: Usually I go and eat and go visit the tourist places, then I will go shopping
Me: I like the food, especially Western food in most places like fish and chip
Her: Yeah Australia serve fish and chip everyday, eat until bored
Me: What else do u do, got go theme parks to play?
Her: Yeah not this time though, the other time I went to Goldcoast Australia
Me: Nice sounds like you like theme parks
Her: Yeah I like theme parks.
Me: Have you been to the USS?
Her: Yeah I been there plenty of times
Me: I really like the feeling of riding cylon when I was there
Her: Cylon is the red one right
Me: Yeah. I was so surprised when I sat it and it started ridiculously fast, I wasn't ready when it launched me right off my seat to the start
Her: Haha yeah that one was fast
Me: Yeah, really unexpected that one, I was used to the old school roller coasters
Me: What do you do for fun in the weekends?
Her: I mainly watch dramas and go out with friends
Me: I watch dramas too like 90 day fiance
Her: Isn't that more of a reality tv show
Me: Yeah I guess, but it also has lots of drama
Her: Oh yeah I only remember them saying. "I like the view" and "You are my best view"
Me: You talking about Big Ed and Liz is it?
Her: Yeah Big Ed and Rose
Me: Rose is his first girlfriend, 2nd girlfriend is Liz.
Her: Ohh yeah
Me: It's really awkward, it's like a train wreck, just can't look away.
We finished our meal and then I went to the toilet. Reconnected with her saying I wanted to eat some dessert. We eventually began walking to the next location. We got stopped by a pancake shop in the 2nd floor of the basement.
Eating pancakes (Facing each other)
We ordered pancakes and started chatting again
Me: How did u first started working?
Her: Me you mean my intern work or my after graduation?
Me: Yeah the first time that you work where was it?
Her: I worked as an analyst
We talked about our jobs, she specifically wanted me to share my profession because I have been pretty vague about it up till now. I teased her a little about having to exercise after the massive pancake that we just ate.
Seated in public (Side by side)
Talking about Thailand
Me: The other time I went Thailand with a friend it was super last minute.
Her: What was it like?
Me: I went there and we went to Bangkok. There were some ladies there who were very excited to meet us. We walked past a massage parlor. There was this lady who tried to hold my hand and pull me in. For like 1 minute they were trying to pull me in.
Her: Haha these people only want your money only
Me: Have you ever felt that way?
Her: They only pull guys in la
Me: Have you ever felt like you were forced to do something even though u may not want to?
Her: So I went on a date with this guy and we went drinking and then he got a little drunk at the end of the date. He tried to pull me into the handicapped toilet.
Me: Oh no, sounds like u didn't want to but he wanted to
Her: Luckily I was standing behind him so he couldn't shut me in.
Me: Yeah that's ridiculous sia
Her: He nearly raped me. If I was standing in front it would have been a different story
Me: Yeah maybe, but u also can unlock the door and run ma.
Her: What if he close the door and shut me in.
Her: That's why now I very scared to go to the toilet, I make sure the guy goes in front of me.
Me: Let me see your tik tok
Her: See it on your phone
Me: I don't even have tik tok downloaded yet.
Her: My tik tok have a lot of personal stuff, like those honey trap
Me: Ah, u have been surfing a ton of naughty stuff on tik tok
Her: No la I mean the thirst trap. You ownself go back download and see
I tried to setup another date. Kept thinking what she does and enjoy to set up another date. She watched drama, have a background of dance from a long time ago, loves theme parks, likes travelling, hates hiking, plays bowling/darts but not that into it. Ended up thinking we could a movie together for another date.
We walked back to the train station. As we went up the escalator I held her arm and tried to turn her body. She resisted. Then as we reached the top I opened my arms to signal a hug but she rejected and said bye. Needless to say the ending was bad
1) Used low voice mostly
2) Facial expression calm, not eager to please. Could use more questioning looks to encourage her contributing to the conversation
1) Did not follow date plans at all -> Only 1 time teasing her sexually
2) Chase frames 0, push pull 0, screen and qualifying 1.
3) Not speaking on emotional level