Being called "sir"

[DarkKnight]

So guys , fast question to you. Not exactly the youngest cat anymore but still very high on fundamentals. I catch young girls calling me "sir" more often. This is pretty recent actually, not entirely sure what to think about it. Sir kind of comes across as being disqualified, it is distant. Recently a girl I should be familiar with called me "sir" as well, although she did show sign of attraction/fascination in the past. Anyway this is not about her but in general.

For the sake of this post assume you are a good looking guy who gets a lot of respect socially, but are at a mature age. Is "sir" in general a disqualification? Because it is formal sounding and for me a quite recent development.

 

[Warped Mindless]

Depends.

if they are very young and show no other signs of interest it’s likely not a positive sign.

Buuut, if you go read some young adult kindle erotic fiction that young women are reading now, the characters in the book call the dominant men they are attracted to “sir.”

 

[DarkKnight]

if they are very young and show no other signs of interest it’s likely not a positive sign.

Some girls show signs of interest, some dont. The recent one did show interest and fascination. Kind of obsessed with me.

Buuut, if you go read some young adult kindle erotic fiction that young women are reading now, the characters in the book call the dominant men they are attracted to “sir.”

Got to say recent girl kind of comes across submissive.. so perhaps she wants to value me in a submissive way? I will look out for more.

Since the lockdown I am encountering this "sir" adressing more. And never got really used to it because of those covid years basically being a time skip

 

[Skills]

So guys , fast question to you. Not exactly the youngest cat anymore but still very high on fundamentals. I catch young girls calling me "sir" more often. This is pretty recent actually, not entirely sure what to think about it. Sir kind of comes across as being disqualified, it is distant. Recently a girl I should be familiar with called me "sir" as well, although she did show sign of attraction/fascination in the past. Anyway this is not about her but in general.

For the sake of this post assume you are a good looking guy who gets a lot of respect socially, but are at a mature age. Is "sir" in general a disqualification? Because it is formal sounding and for me a quite recent development.

The first time i got called sir by a young cashier that did not know me.... It did bother me.... But have not been called that in years...

now context are you fighting with a young girl "see i told you i was right sir" context is i was right you were wrong...

In the dom type scenario "papi" or "daddy" never heard sir...

or it may be the way she talks instead of dude she uses "sir" if i am you i would playfully call her out say "don't call me sir i feel old call me bro or dude... " playful vs butthurt sub

 

[StrayDog]

All about context. If she is complying with a command you gave that moves things towards seduction, or there is a strong flirtatious element, "sir" is a positive. "yes sir" said emphatically and with enthusiasm. Means she sees you as an attractive authority figure.

If the moment is ripe say something like "call me sir again and see what happens". If she reply "yes sir" it's on. Heck, I've even had a girl playfully respond "no way sir" to which my response was getting in really close, running my fingers through her hair close to her head, gently pulling and playfully saying "what did you just say to me." obviously turned on she responds "no sir" and I said "that's it, you're i trouble." we had a grand old time

 

[Skills]

All about context. If she is complying with a command you gave that moves things towards seduction, or there is a strong flirtatious element, "sir" is a positive. "yes sir" said emphatically and with enthusiasm. Means she sees you as an attractive authority figure.

If the moment is ripe say something like "call me sir again and see what happens". If she reply "yes sir" it's on

Yeah this too, forgot this one..

And in dom comunity now that i remember like wm saying with sex "sir" "master" some use, but i doubt it was kink sub..

 

[StrayDog]

Yeah this too, forgot this one..

And in dom comunity now that i remember like ws saying with sex "sir" "master" some use, but i doubt it was kink sub..

exactly. "Sir" is actually a common authority figure roleplay

 

[StrayDog]

Depends.

if they are very young and show no other signs of interest it’s likely not a positive sign.

Buuut, if you go read some young adult kindle erotic fiction that young women are reading now, the characters in the book call the dominant men they are attracted to “sir"

I would cross reference her calling me sir with other cues, but if we are in a casual non professional setting I would at least entertain the possibility she is thinking about me in desirable way. Sir isn't the only indication, but there have been several times a woman has called me sir and it ended up meaning a whole lot more than some social politeness.

 

[MarioTheDom]

Girls call me Sir all the time

Oh wait. I'm The Dom, I make them kneel and call me sir.

Don't focus on the words, focus on what is behind it

 

[Will_V]

So guys , fast question to you. Not exactly the youngest cat anymore but still very high on fundamentals. I catch young girls calling me "sir" more often. This is pretty recent actually, not entirely sure what to think about it. Sir kind of comes across as being disqualified, it is distant. Recently a girl I should be familiar with called me "sir" as well, although she did show sign of attraction/fascination in the past. Anyway this is not about her but in general.

For the sake of this post assume you are a good looking guy who gets a lot of respect socially, but are at a mature age. Is "sir" in general a disqualification? Because it is formal sounding and for me a quite recent development.

First off it depends if you live in a culture where it means something specific. If not, then it depends on how she's saying it. If she's saying it while giving you the doggy dinner bowl look then you're good to go. If she's saying it with closed off body language and an uncertain expression then she's probably feeling apprehensive and you may need to chill. If it's neutral then maybe she wants you to clarify things a bit.

I've been called 'sir' by girlfriends even, when it's done eagerly/playfully it's really her way of saying 'you're the boss, do whatever you want with me'.

 

[HoofHearted]

The more i engage with young women, and lead them through unlimited ambivalence and emotional lability, the more it occurs to me that they should in fact call me sir

 

[DonGately]

So guys , fast question to you. Not exactly the youngest cat anymore but still very high on fundamentals. I catch young girls calling me "sir" more often. This is pretty recent actually, not entirely sure what to think about it. Sir kind of comes across as being disqualified, it is distant. Recently a girl I should be familiar with called me "sir" as well, although she did show sign of attraction/fascination in the past. Anyway this is not about her but in general.

For the sake of this post assume you are a good looking guy who gets a lot of respect socially, but are at a mature age. Is "sir" in general a disqualification? Because it is formal sounding and for me a quite recent development.

My educated guess as an older man is that about half of them are submissives who are thinking [consciously or no] about fucking you. A younger woman sees you as an attainable, attractive-enough, fit-enough man who is probably more sexually experienced than her, and won't screw up her social circle nor try to infiltrate it and meet her friends, parents, classmates, et al. Plus you presumably have enough going on in your life that stalking/violence risk is much less than a younger man.

Erica Jong wrote about the 'zipless fuck' in Fear of Flying. Hot chicks have always wanted deniable dick.