I wanted to get back to this. So yeah I tend to get to hear "sir' more since covid.. and because after covid my great momentum was fucked up it made me wonder if I have become too old. This is not the case as I seem to have reached a new prime again and I get massive interest like never before. But then again I have done quite some work as well to get here. A lot of tweaks. Girls call me "sir" even when liking me a lot, ignoring my friends, talking up to me so this is fine.
BUT, there is nuance to this story
but if they seem serious its probably not a good sign
Yeah agreed. With the girl which prompted me to open this post the story is different. We are in an environment with her where there is social pressure and this girl has always liked me but felt too small (found me intimidating), then became a bit more courageous, then got into a situation where she had a looot of suitors (although I am obviously, yes obviously ofc I'm very humble guy, the best), then very minimally tried to give me an escalation window which was outrageously small, then autorejected, which I mirrored by pulling back, then probably got a boyfriend (I suspect this), then again started engaging me heavily because she hates me being aloof, and telegraphed a looot of interest, then when we were alone erected sudden walls, then probably talked about me pursuing her despite that she prompted me all the time, which I punished her for by freezing her off, which pissed her off and made her throw a tantrum, but because she talked about me now she has to manage her own reputation even more so she is juggling between giving me strong nonverbals but also calling me "sir" to make it come off as platonic. So yeah a huge mess and I have known this broad for 2 years or so maybe more, and am kind of fed up. I liked her because she was always very submissive and friendlytowards me but in the end it is about compliance.
Anyway a lot of doors are opening right now and I am truly on fire. She can call me "sir", which prompts me to be very formal back in return which again pisses her off because it is unvalidating. To this day I honestly believe that if we got to know eachother in another environment we could have been together, but that is for her to consider. She has played a game of trying to manage everyone around her and not making choices but postponing to the very end... and attraction has an expiration rate.
Thanks all for the answers btw.