The Return Of The Mack

[mav3rick]

Volume + Commitment. That's the other missing link; truly getting as far as I can with one particular set instead of letting it fizzle and die or ejecting early with a number.

However, I do see evidence of change from a month or even a couple weeks ago. Everything you do is a reflection of the habits you've built, and what you've built is what allows you to get further and further in the interaction.

Commit.

 

[mav3rick]

Here I am again, on a Sunday night, reflecting on this week's successes, failures, and progress.

I have been writing daily notes about my life for over a year and a half now. I use evernote. While I can (and have) gotten carried away writing when I should be doing, recently, I have successfully created the habit of only writing down productive things.

Every day, I write down the baby steps I take towards my goals. Baby steps are tiny actions that I have not taken before; they are what I'm doing to become just a little bit better than last time, than yesterday, than earlier today. A recent example was me sending a non-needy text ping. Another slightly larger one was me calling a girl out of the blue that I hadn't spoken with in over a month. These steps can be as small or as large as I want them to be, but the point is that I have evidence of my progress. For me, every day that I take even one single baby step is a win. Which means that I win every single day, because I'm always doing just a teeny tiny bit more than I was yesterday. This is the mindset that allows me to not fixate on any particular goal and get stressed or burnt out trying to achieve it; I know that if I keep taking these baby steps towards the life I want to live, my dreams will become reality. As long as I do not quit, there is a 100% chance that I accomplish what I set out to.

side note: I have come to the conclusion that 'baby steps' are not as good of an analogy as I originally thought. While there is something to be said for walking down a path or setting off on a journey, that implies reaching a certain destination. I have no true destination; what I'm after is simply the pursuit of better.

As I remarked in my last journal entry, everything game related is made of habits that build off each other. The goal, then, is not to reach one specific end, but to create something magnificent. Where the only limits are your imagination; there are no wrong answers, no wrong turns, and mistakes are covered up like a Bob Ross painting. Perhaps life is a blank canvas, and each individual is free to paint whatever kind of picture they would like to see. After all, we are not here to create a specific, picture perfect image for someone else to look at; we are here to experience the joy of painting.

And so, I am enjoying the process of becoming a man who is great with women. There are a lot of things I'm doing now that I could be doing will do better. There are a lot of mistakes I am making now that I will no longer make in the future. Many aspects of my dream life are not part of my current life.

That's okay.

I'll list a few of the baby steps I took last week that seem most impactful.

• I followed up on all old text leads, and improved my texting game by a LOT
• I practiced night street game much more than I had in the past (takeaway: the hook needs to be better than in the day)
• There are a lot of good habits I've cemented further, see my notes on habits building on one another
• There was one girl I was very close to pulling.... no write up of it so far, we'll see what comes of it
• I'm hanging out with friends more rather than doing everything solo
• I've been upgrading my style, because it is sub par right now (and my haircut is less than ideal, but it will grow back)
• and of course I've gotten better in interactions with women just through experience and trying new things.

What I'll be working on next week:

• my cocky funny attitude, and paying attention to emotional spikes vs basic 'getting to know you' talk (step 3)
• making my sexual intentions known, mainly through eye contact (step 1)
• approaching girls I truly want to have sexual encounters with (step 2)
• staying in set longer/moving girls around (step 4)
• keep the always be closing framework in mind - number or otherwise (step 5)

These are all habits that I expect to be cemented in the next two or three weeks. It will be cool to look back and see how these small things were once actual goals of mine, rather than second nature. Once again, habits build on each other, and in the future, I will be looking to nail down much more advanced points. However, one cannot live in the future, and progress can only be made in the present.

It's been a while since I've posted any actual interactions in here, so tomorrow I'm going to get 5 numbers and write out each encounter.

Good night all. May your dreams for the future become reality, and may you enjoy the present for what it is: a gift.

 

[mav3rick]

Okay, fuck. I didn't get those 5 numbers the other day. That's a mistake that I am stopping to make anymore: writing or saying things I will do, rather than saying nothing and simply doing them. Writing down that I will do something does not ensure that I do it. This is important to keep in mind.

Anyways, something clicked in my brain the last few days and I've had a paradigm shift in how I view approaching women. I now see approaching as a sexual pursuit rather than a way to check some box or fulfill some obligation. Maybe this was ingrained in most peoples' heads from the start, but this perspective truly changes the game for me. ACTUALLY wanting to sleep with girls you meet... crazy thought. Or it could be a normal thought that simply never occurred to me.

It's an odd feeling to walk around during the day and know that I could stop (just about) any girl I see, have a conversation, and get her phone number. And so the question is not how many phone numbers I can get, but what girls do I want to pursue?

In the past, I was being hindered by classifying girls as not attractive enough to approach, and I wondered where the line was. I decided that if she was attractive at all, it was worth approaching her. Now I've encountered that line in the sand again; and the line seems to be "do I want to engage in sexual relations with that woman?" rather than "is she attractive?". However, in order to prevent my standards from getting too high, the real question for whether I want to approach or not should be "might I want to have sexual relations with that woman?"

So no, I didn't get 5 numbers to write out the interactions, and writing what I will do does not make me better. Writing what I AM doing, however, does lead to results. I AM viewing interactions as sexual pursuits, and I AM no longer getting phone numbers just to get phone numbers, because I AM going after the girl instead of going after some mission that might improve one small aspect of my game.


TLR; I've had a paradigm shift about approaching and I'm excited to see where it leads me.

 

[mav3rick]

Prequel: I take daily notes of things from my life. I've seen time and time again that writing down things about game, whether it's observations from encounters or things to do differently, don't seem to make any difference in my life. Therefore, I won't write down anything game related in my notes until at least December. Journal writings here are fine.

This week, I took a step back from approaching to see the bigger picture of how game fits into my life. I did get sick, and that contributed to a lower energy vibe, which is fine because I find that more conducive to reflecting and seeing reality objectively.

My main takeaway is this: the reason I haven't meaningfully elevated my dating life is because game is not a top priority in my life. I thought it was, until I took a hard look at how I'm living. I ordered all of the projects/goals I'm currently pursuing in order of which I would give up for the other, and saw that game was near the bottom of that list. The order of these goals (shockingly) lined up quite neatly with the amount of headway I've made in each project.

Now I see the truth. What's next?

My first thought is acceptance. It's okay that game is not a top priority in my life because it doesn't have to be. In fact, game doesn't have to be a priority at all, because I don't have to pursue any goals I don't want to. Any resistance I've felt towards being with women is caused by me thinking I SHOULD talk to her, or SHOULD take the interaction further, rather than me actually wanting to. If I truly want to do something, I do it.

My goals are not obligations. I pursue goals because I want to, not because I have to. What does this mean?

I'm going to try something new.

I won't force myself to do anything I don't want to do. If I talk to a girl where I COULD have taken the interaction further and didn't, I will simply remember that if I wanted to take it further, I would have. This comes with trusting myself, because 'not doing anything I don't have to do' is a convenient excuse for inaction. And yet, I trust that I do want to elevate my dating life. I trust that when I talk to a sexually attractive girl that I WANT to take home, I will do everything possible to make that happen. If I fail at that point, then so be it... but I don't think I will if I'm truly locked in like that.

In conclusion, I'm switching up my approach to approaching. The way I've been doing things doesn't seem to be working, so I'm going to do things differently and see what comes of it.

 

[mav3rick]

I haven't been on the site much at all recently. Actually, I haven't been on the site at all recently. I've realized that there are other things in my life I value more than picking up chicks at the present moment, so I'm focusing on those more. I'm still getting better with women, I'm just doing it at a slower pace because it isn't my main priority.

I'll be back at some point. But I'm going ghost for now.

 

[mav3rick]

I suppose it's time for an update. I doubt I'll write much here anymore but still want to show newbies how things can change.

In short, I started getting laid. In the last couple months, I've brought in 10-15 girls, most of them through online dating. Chances I write these up are slim - some were super simple, some were more complicated, depending on the expectations we set beforehand.

I remember some guys here looking down on dating apps because they're not 'real game'. Who cares. If your goal is to improve your sex life, make a profile now. You'll gain sexual experience and confidence that only comes from being with women, as well as relationship experience once you find girls you want to keep seeing. The girls you meet in person will sense it, I promise.

Final thought of today: If you're not getting laid, start using dating apps. Drop the ego and go meet some women, it'll make your life better.

Until next time,
mav